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Signing Your Enlistment Papers is not an Accomplishment

Interesting local controversy. A kid that has enlisted in the USMC wants to wear a non-sanctioned patriotic tassel, even though school rules are very clear that graduation is about official high school achievements only. After the principal said no they took it to the school board and now it’s in the press.

1. The kid is going to be an enlisted grunt in the Marine Corp. He probably needs to get over this thing about questioning authority sooner rather than later.

2. He hasn’t accomplished anything at all. He signed a piece of a paper. He could be deferred, he could wash out of Basic due to medical issues, he could get scared and go AWOL. So he wants special recognition for signing his name? Graduating from Basic is an accomplishment. Serving out your term honorably is an accomplishment. Serving 20+ years and retiring is a huge accomplishment. Signing the paper is not an accomplishment.

3. The kid has joined the United States Marine Corp. Maybe it’s time for Mommy to stop fighting his battles for him? (Hat tip to Nance for that snark.)

4. If the special tassel is that important, he can carry it in his pocket and put it on his cap after graduation for pictures. This obsession with individual recognition is sort of unbecoming for a future Marine. This is something that the good guys at Parris Island will get to teach him in a few months.

High school graduation is about high school achievements. Period. I totally support the principal’s decision here. It’s not high school related, and it’s not even an accomplishment. I respect his decision to serve the country, but I suspect when he gets to Parris Island the friendly guys there will make it quite evident that he hasn’t accomplished squat; until he walks out as an United States Marine.

Book Review: The Last Best League

The Last Best League follows a group of college kids that are playing for the Chatham A’s of the Cape Cod League. The Cape Cod League is the premier summer league for college baseball players. Just about every kid playing is a legitimate major league prospect. The season is short, only about 45 games. For many of the kids, this is the first time they are playing in a league where everybody is as good as they are.

We follow the kids through the games, their part time jobs, living with host families, partying, girls. and all the usual stuff you would expect of a group of Type A jocks thrown together on Cape Cod for a summer. The author does a good job making the kids (all real-life people) more than caricatures.

If you are a baseball fan you’ll enjoy the book. If you are not a baseball fan you might enjoy this book. It’s a look into one of the last bastions of community supported high-level amateur baseball in the US. It reads at the pace of a baseball game. It’s relaxing and interesting, but most of the time, not exciting.

The book follows the 2002 season. About 15 of the 23 kids from the A’s were drafted by major league teams. I looked each one up to see if any made it. A few had a cup of coffee in The Show, but not one stuck. One guy is playing in Japan. The other 14, as far as I can tell, are out of baseball.

Teenage Wasteland

Teenage unemployment is currently running at 25%. I can’t think of a single teenager that I know that has a traditional part-time job. My 18 year old son is a certified fencing referee. Not exactly the traditional teenager job.

I started working before I was 10. My father would get me odd jobs doing yard work and pet sitting for his friends. Later on, I would simply go door to door with a lawn mower in the summer. I got a “real job” at 16 and worked all through college too. Pretty much everybody I knew in high school had a part time job. You turned 16 and you found a job. It was standard operating procedure. Most of the employees at my local pizza joint appear to be my age. Granted, there are several factors at work here, none of them under the control of a teenager.

1. The economy. Duh! Adults are taking the jobs that used to go to teenagers.
2. The general decline of retail. Between automated checkout lines and Amazon, the local retail establishments just don’t support as many jobs as they used to.
3. Competition for college. Especially among upper-middle class kids, doing something that looks more impressive on a college application that “McDonalds” takes priority. Given that a full ride to a private school is worth $200,000 that isn’t necessarily a bad strategy.

How does this play out when the kids are 21 or 22 though? Not having the 5-6 years of work experience that we had upon college graduation could make the next generation a slower ramp into the full-time work world, as they have to learn the lessons we learned at 17. OTOH, maybe they’ll be more likely to go an entrepreneurial route, with I think would be a net benefit to the country. With health care reform,recent college grads will be able to stay on their parents insurance until they are 26. They can write a check to their parents each month for their part of the insurance premium, and have 4-5 years to try to make it on their own without needing the health care security blanket that may come with a corporate job.

Teenagers today need to be thinking about the long game years before we ever worried about it. They should be lining up internships and volunteer opportunities so that the graduate not only with a degree, but with 3-5 years of applicable work experience, and not just 3-5 years of work experience. It kind of sucks that kids have to worry about this stuff. Most 18 years old don’t really know what they want to be when they grow up. That adds a certain level of difficulty to lining up the right part time and summer jobs.

This might be a rare instance when I’m happy I’m not 18 again.

Stuff I Learned On A Road Trip To Atlanta

This past weekend I road tripped with my son to Atlanta for a family visit while he competed in the Peach State Open. Here are a few things I learned on the trip.

The Toyota Corolla is surprisingly comfortable on long drives. It was 10 hours there and 9.5 hours coming home, and my back felt fine the next day both ways.

If you are headed south from DC (away from the coast) there is a better route than I-85. Follow US 29 South through Lynchburg and Danville VA to Greensboro NC, where it intersects with I-85. US 29 is four lane the entire way, sparsely populated, and much more interesting than the interstate highway route. It’s 50 miles shorter via 29 too.

When in Danville, eat at Short Sugar’s BBQ. It might be as far north as you can find real NC BBQ.

The Hair Metal station on XM Radio doesn’t have enough music to go 24 hours without repeating songs.

Ozzy’s Boneyard might be the coolest station on XM Radio. Where else where you hear Ratt, Led Zepplin, and Celtic Frost in succession? They also play a lot of Queen, which is cool, even if it doesn’t really fit in well.

They still drive like maniacs on GA 400. Some things don’t change.

Our first house and neighborhood still looks pretty good, although I had forgotten just how hilly the neighborhood was.

The white rail porch is gone, and our shutters were darker, otherwise pretty much the same.




Traffic in Atlanta still sucks.

There is a Varsity Jr. in Dawsonville. The food tastes the same, but the ambiance isn’t even close.

My son has gotten pretty damn good at this fencing thing.

I kind of miss Atlanta.

Homeschoolers and College

With my son’s recent decision to attend the University of Mary Washington, now seems like a good time to brain dump on what we learned getting our first homeschooled kid into college. This may not be well organized…

1. Start keeping records when they start “9th grade.” We had to take an archaeological approach and dig up what our son had worked on for the previous 3 years, because we weren’t tracking it closely. It turned out that by the time he started his “senior” year, he had already completed all the requirements for a VA High School Diploma. Of course, he’ll never actually have that piece of paper.

2. Think outside the box. All those hours your kid spends writing Minecraft add-ons? That is a course in computer programming. All those hours playing guitar are music class.

3. Take advantage of volunteer opportunities. Your homeschooled teen has free time during the day with no competition from the hordes that are in school. Use it! Find opportunities to volunteer doing stuff related to career interests, or just doing good works. My son the soon-to-be History major did volunteer primary source research for a NPS Historian that resulted in co-author credit on a published article when he was 16. Do you think that looked good on college applications?

4. Take the SAT in the junior year so that you have time to address any deficiencies. However, don’t be surprised when the SAT score exceeds your wildest expectation and your homeschooled teen decides that he won’t be taking the test again. You can get into school without taking the SAT or ACT. We didn’t go that route so I don’t have much to offer if you take that road.

5. A high SAT score plus a homeschooled background = lots of interest from colleges, especially small liberal arts schools. High verbal scores will lead to many colleges waiving the application fee and essay requirements. Take advantage and do the 5 minute application anywhere that offers it. We made a mistake here. We got picky, and quite frankly, a little lazy. High verbal scores may also get you free credit hours by exempting the student from Freshman English. (I assume a really high math score comes with similar benefits.) At a public school, getting to skip a 4 credit hour English class is worth about $1200. Seemingly very expensive private schools have lots of money available to hand out, so don’t dismiss them when they send the glossy brochures to the house.

6. Some colleges will insist on grades. Don’t fight it. Just assign grades. Your assessment is no more arbitrary than what a teacher puts on a school report card. If your kid is 95th percentile on the SAT math section you can quite legitimately assign an A for every math course you are claiming. No school will question it. In our local public schools “SAT Prep” is an actual class. If the school kids can claim it, you can too.

7. Make a transcript that looks familiar to college admissions folks. Make sure the admissions committee can look at the transcript and relate it the high school graduation requirements for your state. Supplement it with a written description of what each course covered. For more traditional subjects where you may have used a textbook or curriculum, you can probably cut and paste what you need from the publisher’s website. Off the beaten path or unschooled stuff is limited only by your ability to put into writing what you did. Writing these descriptions is a job for the homeschooled student, not the parent! My son’s supplement was 14 pages. Also, apply early action or early decision to your top choice schools. Those kids often get priority for scholarships.

8. Check out the online or book form AP Test study guides for any subject that you think is possible. Again, it can be free college credits. You have to register for the AP by early March of senior year, usually through the public schools. So check the web for dates and don’t miss it. AP scores are not used for admissions – only for credit. So there is no reason to take the AP tests early.

9. Think about utilizing the local community college during the junior and senior years. It can be a great way to take foreign language or lab science courses that aren’t as easy to handle on your own. In some states, high school age kids can attend for free. Even if you have to pay, you will be banking college credits at 50-75% off the price of the same credits at a public 4-year school. Between community college, AP tests, and SAT exemptions, your kid can start college as a sophomore. At $25k a year for a public school in-state, that is some serious savings.

10. Above all else, don’t stress. Don’t believe the horror stories about colleges being hard to work with when you are a homeschooler. Among small private schools, I found the opposite. They went out of their way to be sure my son qualified for available scholarships. I think just about every Division I school has a process in place for homeschoolers. So check the web sites, they will tell you exactly what you need to provide. The entire process was actually much easier than I expected. Colleges really do like homeschooled kids.

Never Walk By A Red Dress

Another post about Buck O’Neil and The Soul of Baseball.

Buck shook his head and looked me in the eyes. And very slowly, with a teacher’s edge in his voice, Buck said this: “Son, in this life, you don’t ever walk by a red dress.”

Buck was answering a question about why he (a 94 year old) was flirting with a 20 something – but I think the point he was making goes beyond attractive women in red dresses.

Ferris Bueller said it as, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Of course Ferris is fake, Buck O’Neil is real.

The Buddha talked about the importance of mindfulness- of fully experiencing each moment we have on this earth.

It’s all the same point. We can go through life on auto-pilot, checking things off our to-do list without really experiencing what we just completed, in a rush to just get through the list. Or we can slow down, realizing that 80% of our to-do list probably doesn’t actually have to get done, and fully experience the 20% that matters. If we do that, I think we all find a lot more red dresses in our lives.

Mirror Mirror On The Wall

My wife returned from the ladies room at the movie theater recently with an interesting, and slightly disturbing story. Another woman at the mirror in the ladies room commented that she thought they were using a trick mirror that made you look slimmer, probably in an attempt to get woman to feel better about ordering a large popcorn and coke. My wife, after looking at the woman and her reflection, and then at herself, agreed that the mirror did indeed appear to be bending light in a way that was flattering to the subject.

I think it’s common knowledge that clothing store dressing rooms do this. But the bathroom mirror at the movie theater seems to be a stretch. I’d love to know if they have hard data showing that the mirror does increase concession sales. I’d also love to know if any female executives at Paragon Theaters objected to the mirrors when the idea was originally pitched.

Then again, movies are the land of make-believe, so maybe this shouldn’t really be a surprise to me ;)

The Secret to Marriage

Since we hit the big 20 year milestone last year I’ve been asked a few times about our “secret.” I don’t think we have one, and I usually laughed off addressing that question by saying something along the lines of our secret being that neither of us spent any time obsessing over the secret to a long and happy marriage.

Then this week while reading The Soul of Baseball I found the quote that nails it. It says exactly what I was thinking. However, coming from a 94 year old ex-Negro League star who was married for 51 years, it carries a little more weight.


That’s how it goes in this world. Life doesn’t turn out the way you think. You just hold on to each other. That’s the trick.

I agree. It really is that simple.

Expect more on Buck O’Neil here this week. I loved this book. Buck O’Neil was a truly exceptional human being.

“C” is for cookie.

Last week, I tried a little experiment. I set Firefox to delete all cookies on close. I expected to hate the hassle of logging in to sites every day. It turns out that I don’t really have that many sites that I actually need to log into daily. Mail, Facebook, and Google Plus are about it. The browser stores passwords independently of cookies, so it’s not like I have to manually type stuff in now. On most sites once I enter the login ID the password auto populates. Keepass also can track login IDs and passwords securely for you. If you use Keepass on Linux, it can also enter the ID and password and log you in with one command. That’s right, something that does more on Linux than it does on Windows.

So now I’ve made significantly more difficult for web sites to track me as I appear as a new user if I don’t log in. The price for the enhanced privacy is the minor inconvenience of logging into a few sites every day. It’s an inconvenience I can live with.

The Irish Americans: A History

Irish AmericanRarely is a book title as perfectly descriptive as this one. The book is exactly as advertised. Written by retired Notre Dame Professor Jay Dolan, it does read like a textbook. It’s not a book that you will sit down and devour in big chunks. It is a book that you will finish though, and I feel much smarter about my ethnic background for having read it.

A few things that struck me as I read the book. Not of all this was news to me.

The first wave of Irish immigrants were not Catholic. They were Presbyterian and Anglican, and they settled in the NE in the years prior to the Revolutionary War. They immediately faced extreme discrimination from the Puritans, who of course came to American in search of religious freedom for themselves, but not for anybody else.

After 100+ years of extreme discrimination, when the Irish Americans finally “made it” in America, they remembered the lessons of bigotry and were on the front lines of Emancipation. Ha! Not even close. The Irish were gung-ho about discriminatory practices against any group that might compete with them for jobs. This was primarily the Chinese and African-Americans early on, and later the Italians.

It’s not really possible to discuss the history of the Irish in American without also discussing the history of the Catholic Church. I has my history backwards on this one. I always thought Irish culture and the Catholic Church was sort of a bottom up process, but it was the opposite. Irish Priests quickly gained control in the US, and remade the Catholic church as they saw fit, which was actually quite different than how it worked in Ireland. One example, regular weekly attendance at Mass was not that big of a deal in 18th Century Ireland. Skipping a Sunday in the US put you on the highway to Hell.

White flight to suburbia was very damaging to Irish Catholic culture. Prior to the 40s, the Irish tended to live in enclaves where everything, and I do mean everything, revolved around the local church. The neighborhoods were insular and an Irish family could get everything they needed without venturing more than a few blocks from home. They never got that back after the move to the suburbs. (I can remember my Grandmother pinpointing the downfall of the neighborhood to the day Italians starting moving in).

The fighting in Ireland and the eventual victory with the establishment of home rule was primarily financed by Irish-Americans. As recently as the early 1990s the Irish Pub I hung out at in Atlanta (The County Cork) occasionally passed the hat when somebody was traveling back to Northern Ireland.

The fallout of pious Catholicism was remarkably quick. In about a 20 year time period from the early 40s to early 60s, regular weekly attendance at Mass dropped from 80% to 40%. That’s remarkably quick for such a dramatic shift in cultural practices. Catholic kids moved from Catholic to public schools in mass over the same time period.

Spring Training Thoughts

I exited the office early today and took in a couple of hours of sun and baseball with the Red Sox and Nationals. The Red Sox won, not that it matters in a Spring Training game. I left in the bottom of the 7th when both teams on the field were mostly guys who will not be on the MLB clubs in 24 hours.

A few random thoughts that crossed my mind as I enjoyed the game.

- I need to follow baseball more, and politics less. Especially this year.

- $8.00 for a Miller Lite is freaking crazy. I didn’t partake.

- The $50 seats are nice, especially when you only paid $10 for it.

- There were a lot of young kids with Dads there. However, the Dads are failing as the kids had no freaking idea about baseball. I taught the 5ish year old next to me to yell Yoooouuukkkk. What kind of Dad brings a child to a game unprepared to show proper respect to the Greek God of Walks?

- California Girls may do it for the Beach Boys, but I’ll take a woman in the Red Sox Jersey any day. There is no contest between the Red Sox girls and Nationals girls. The female members of Red Sox Nation win in a landslide that would make Obama – Santorum look close.

Opening Day is Thursday. Play Ball!

This blog used to be entertaining

While downloading the first two episodes of Season 2 of The Walking Dead (my DVR didn’t get them for some reason) I went down the rabbit hole of clicking random posts in the “Possibly Related Posts” list.

This blog used to be good. I found funny writing, I found epic fiskings of stupid homeschool related posts, I found insightful and snarky writing about baseball, and 80s metal; and I found lively engaging conversations in the comments.

I wonder if I could ever get that vibe back here?

Free Kevin!

Ghost in the Wires: My Adventures as the World’s Most Wanted Hacker is Kevin Mitnick’s memoirs of his life as the most notorious hacker in America. For a guy that attracted so much attention from law enforcement, he did remarkably little damage. It reads like a thriller, with Kevin frequently not that far ahead of the Feds that were hunting him, until the day that they caught him.

One thing that struck me, he was truly addicted to hacking. He’d been to jail already, he knew they were tracking him, tracing his calls, bugging his phone, but he just couldn’t stop. It’s not like he needed the money from it, because he didn’t make any. He downloaded the source code for all the newest cell phones, and simply stashed the code on a server like a trophy. His greatest talent wasn’t really computer hacking. It was social engineering. He is a very talented Unix admin, but his preferred way of getting into a network was simply getting an employee to give him an account and a password.

His arrest and incarceration was a complete sham. I want to write it off as a lack of clue on the part of law enforcement, but I don’t think that is it. The sophistication involved in the effort to track him down was impressive. I don’t think the people that did that really believed he could launch missiles by calling NORAD and whistling into the phone. The brain dead judges probably did believe it though.

Dressage Training Test 1 Prix Caprilli

They also did a straight Training Test 1, which didn’t focus properly, and Training test 2, which somebody has requested not be put online because she may have been on the wrong diagonal.

Thoughts on Car Shopping – 2012 edition

Recent issues with my 1997 Mazda 626 have made it apparent that we needed a vehicle in the family with less than 100,000 miles on it (It is at 177K). The Durango just passed 100K, and at 14 mpg around town, we don’t really want to use it as our daily teen transporter. I had vowed to never buy new again, so we started a couple of weeks ago with me dropping $6.95 on a one month on-line subscription to Consumer Reports. I went through their reliability records for cars likely to be in the 10K – 12K price range, and made my short list of small sedans to look at. There were no surprises on the list, Honda, Toyota, Mazda, etc. Researching the local market quickly showed me that I was a little out of touch on what I could get for $12,000.

Undaunted, we headed out on a Sunday afternoon to look at a few cars. The pickings were slim. We looked at a 2008 Kia Optima which neither of us liked. The suspension and handling were very soft. It was like driving your grandfather’s Buick. Then we drove a 2010 Hyundai Elantra, which is the same car, but handles much better, and is just generally better put together. Next we stopped by the Dodge lot and looked at a 2008 Ford Fusion. We hated it. Then we stopped by the Chevy dealership. They didn’t have anything on our short list available, but the sales guy talked me into test driving a 2011 Cruze. I was generally curious about GM’s newest try at a small car. The car is loads of fun to drive, a turbo charged 4 cylinder that still gets well north of 30 mpg. However, it’s a Chevy, and I’m not buying a first model year Chevy under any circumstances.

The Kia and Hyundai salespeople were both relaxed, laid back, and non-pushy. So relaxed in fact, that neither bothered to follow up with me. The salesperson at the Dodge dealer had a significant air of desperation. The Chevrolet guy was older, and the only person who exhibited any sales skills at all. He at least got my respect for trying, and that was part of the reason why I did the test drive on the Cruze in the first place. At 4 PM Michelle wanted to go back to Hyundai and make an offer on the Elantra. I didn’t feel like I knew enough to negotiate effectively, so I talked her out of it. Had the Hyundai guy called me on Monday and made a decent offer, he might have had a sale. He never called.

In the meantime, I was getting dismayed about what $12,000 buys in a small sedan. The used market is tight, and it’s only getting worse for fuel efficient cars. Meanwhile, with 0% financing, new cars can be had for not much more out of pocket than used cars. So this past weekend, we decided to look at new cars. We started at Mazda, to look at the Mazda 3. It’s important to note that of the 7 cars we have owned since we got married, 5 were Mazdas. I let the sales guy know up front that I was a Mazda guy. We took the Mazda 3 iSport for a drive. It’s a fun car to drive, definitely the most fun of anything we test drove. On paper, the Mazda is larger than the Hyundai Elantra, but it sure feels smaller, both in the front and rear seats. Also, I wasn’t thrilled about the layout of the dash, and Michelle thought the seats were a little stiff. That said, I would have been fine owning the car. They made me a nice offer on it too, less than $16,000. However, it was still early, and I wanted to drive a new Elantra and Corolla before making a decision. The Corolla was sort of a due diligence car. It was more expensive than the other two, and my impression of Toyota was they trade on their brand reputation, and that it is hard to get a good deal.

The next stop was Hyundai. A sales guy pounced on us immediately. He exhibited every negative stereotype of a car salesman. We asked for the guy that we talked to the previous week about the used car. He implied that guy can’t sell new Hyundais because he works for the Nissan side of the dealership. So we took a lavender 2012 Elantra GLS for a spin. It’s a very nice car. I was sold on the car, but I was not buying purple. He told us it was the only one they had. I asked about the used one from the week before. He brushed me off and pitched me on a Sonata for the the same price as an Elantra. That’s like getting a Mazda 6 for the price of a Mazda 3. It doesn’t happen. He tried to convince me a 6 year loan is a good idea. At this point I was ready to split. While I was dealing with the guy, Michelle wandered next door and found the guy we dealt with the previous week. It turns out he can sell anything on the lot. He was pissed about the Hyundai guy trying to steal us. I was too. I’m in sales, honor among thieves and all that :) The 2010 was still on the lot, so we took it for another drive. When we came back I told him I liked the Elantra and wouldn’t mind owning one. I told him I could get a new Mazda 3 for $15,800, and I didn’t think the Elantra was worth much more than a Mazda. I gave him two options. I’d put a deposit down and wait for the next shipment in a couple of weeks; or I’d consider the used one if he gave me enough of a delta to walk from the good deal on the Mazda. The sales manager refused to talk price on the 2012 Elantra. I could pay sticker if I wanted one. He offered $13,995 on the used car (sticker was $14,995). I pointed out that less than $2000 with used car interest rates was not even close to enough. I’d rather have the new Mazda at that price.

At this point, we almost went back to Mazda. Had the salesman called me at that point to see how my day shopping was going, it probably would have reeled me in. Instead, we went to Toyota, expecting to be underwhelmed by the Corolla, especially at a sticker price at the very top of my budget. Instead, we both really liked the car. It drives nice, it’s roomy for a small sedan, and it is nicely equipped. So I sat down with the sales guy and laid it out. I can have a new Mazda 3 for $15,800. I’d be willing to pay $1200 more for the Corolla. The sales manager came over and did his pitch on Toyota. Then he came back with his best and final offer. It wasn’t quite to my $17,000 number, but it was pretty damn close, and I liked the way they do business. Add in a 0% loan and free oil changes for as long as I own the car, and it was an all around good deal. So I took it.

The Mazda guy still hasn’t called.